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I am equal parts "You are Queen Slut" and "the juice ain't worth the squeeze

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Very into an advice column that is tangents ending with "seek professional help" lol

I'm with Katya on the last one. Plus, the erotic intrigue of laying the hot prof disappears almost immediately... and then you actually have to pay attention in class to pass. If he is even interested in putting his job and marriage on the line in the first place. If he's truly hot-hot, then this student wouldn't be the first to approach him anyway, and since he's still teaching it suggests he probably turns that sleep-deprived broke-and-beaten college coochie down.

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Agreed. Or, you will fall in love with him and he will lead you on and eventually tire of you and dump you.

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100% with Katya on the professor one. Don't do it. It won't end well for anyone.

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Katya gives great advice! And Trixie knows how to make us laugh haha

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im obsessed with the fact that you could either be angels or devils while giving out these advices

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Ask Monica Lewinsky if its worth having an affair with an older married man in power...

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WHY ARE NONE OF THESE COMMENTS ABOUT THE FIRST QUESTION. It is my birthday today (I'm just a little younger than Katya, so I'm 45) and I read that and now I'm wondering what that portends for the next year.

(Also, I don't love every one of these columns, but the answers in these are superb. I especially love Trixie's answer to #2.)

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re: question 3 -- I agree with Trixie that you should definitely wait until you graduate, otherwise the power dynamics will be very messy and icky.

Another consideration: does this professor work in the field you want to have a career in and/or will you want this professor to provide references, professional contacts, etc for you in the future? If yes, probably definitely not worth the squeeze. If not, then.... I kind of see no issue with it, in terms of power dynamics, if you wait until after graduation 💦

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