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I got very lucky with my freshman year roommate. There was no drama, we never had any kind of major disagreement, and got on well. Looking back on it, I realize it was because we never actually became very close, either. We were friendly, we shared the same major, had friends in common, and common interests, but we never became super ultra besties like a lot of the other roommates around us. We always maintained a bit of a distance, and respected each other's space and privacy. She was a much more mature and grounded person than me, and taught me the value of just communicating to a person that you need quiet, or alone time, or you plan to bring someone over. We made a mutual agreement that we would never have more than one guest in the room at a time, and that guest would be limited to a stay of two hours. More than one person or more than a two hour time frame required vacating the room and going somewhere else. It really made for a peaceful and relaxing living situation for a freshman dorm.
Meanwhile, the drama unfolding all around us was continual and insane and so bad it made the all ages gay bar my friends all frequented seem like an oasis of calm civilization. These bitches were losing their goddamn minds. And it was all because they became Super Besties right away, then had some sort of falling out (usually over a dude named Kenneth or Jackson), then started hating each other, then living together became pure hell.
This was really a lot just to say: be friendly with your roommate, but don't get too close to them too quickly if at all. Set boundaries in the beginning and adjust over time as needed. Communication is key. Don't spend too much time there.
hey fierce diva! I’m currently in my final year of degree so this will be pretty much my last time being in a dorm, with a roomie. that being said, since my country (I’m from Southeast Asia) has been in lockdown for sooo long, I stayed at home and did online learning for 2 years. it was only on March I came back to my campus to start physical classes.
that being said, since I was at home for sooo long I was so afraid of interacting and living in a room with a stranger. what if I don’t like her and she’s absolutely unbearable? thank god I got a roommate that matches my vibe and energy. we both bond over kpop, so that’s pretty cool.
but here’s the catch. she’s a super introvert person and I like to talk to people alot. so how do we communicate when she doesn’t rly wanna talk?
simple, most of the days we just stay silent and do our own stuffs, but like for example, before we sleep we’d have a nice chat about any specific niche that we both like, or the latest issues. you don’t have to interact with them all the time. it gets tiring. I think you can just mind your own business on times you know. it gets better as time passes, I can assure you that. have fun in college diva
I got very lucky with my freshman year roommate. There was no drama, we never had any kind of major disagreement, and got on well. Looking back on it, I realize it was because we never actually became very close, either. We were friendly, we shared the same major, had friends in common, and common interests, but we never became super ultra besties like a lot of the other roommates around us. We always maintained a bit of a distance, and respected each other's space and privacy. She was a much more mature and grounded person than me, and taught me the value of just communicating to a person that you need quiet, or alone time, or you plan to bring someone over. We made a mutual agreement that we would never have more than one guest in the room at a time, and that guest would be limited to a stay of two hours. More than one person or more than a two hour time frame required vacating the room and going somewhere else. It really made for a peaceful and relaxing living situation for a freshman dorm.
Meanwhile, the drama unfolding all around us was continual and insane and so bad it made the all ages gay bar my friends all frequented seem like an oasis of calm civilization. These bitches were losing their goddamn minds. And it was all because they became Super Besties right away, then had some sort of falling out (usually over a dude named Kenneth or Jackson), then started hating each other, then living together became pure hell.
This was really a lot just to say: be friendly with your roommate, but don't get too close to them too quickly if at all. Set boundaries in the beginning and adjust over time as needed. Communication is key. Don't spend too much time there.
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Trix, the bit about baking for grandchildren was so sweet and tender.
re: the first question.
hey fierce diva! I’m currently in my final year of degree so this will be pretty much my last time being in a dorm, with a roomie. that being said, since my country (I’m from Southeast Asia) has been in lockdown for sooo long, I stayed at home and did online learning for 2 years. it was only on March I came back to my campus to start physical classes.
that being said, since I was at home for sooo long I was so afraid of interacting and living in a room with a stranger. what if I don’t like her and she’s absolutely unbearable? thank god I got a roommate that matches my vibe and energy. we both bond over kpop, so that’s pretty cool.
but here’s the catch. she’s a super introvert person and I like to talk to people alot. so how do we communicate when she doesn’t rly wanna talk?
simple, most of the days we just stay silent and do our own stuffs, but like for example, before we sleep we’d have a nice chat about any specific niche that we both like, or the latest issues. you don’t have to interact with them all the time. it gets tiring. I think you can just mind your own business on times you know. it gets better as time passes, I can assure you that. have fun in college diva
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