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The best sex is whatever YOU decides works for YOU. No one else should tell you what's best. Experiment. Find out what works for you. Find out what you like...or don't. Seek out those willing to give you what you want. Provide others what they want. Don't listen to those who would tell you what "the best" is. Define that for yourself, judgment be damned.

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Did my therapist put you up to this? 😂

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The best sex comes from having a long term caring lover who is imaginative and thinks about what you need and want. Both sexes doing that makes for a fun and satisfying relationship. Being a slut will NEVER get you there. Good luck, though.

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good for you!!

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I’m a 32 year old hot slut and I’ll be a hot slut til I die.

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No you won’t.

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I won’t be a hot slut until I die? Ok then haha

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I’m trying to be helpful here. Talk to older ex ‘hot slurs’. Ask them if they did it right. They won’t say yes. Enjoy your body. Enjoy sex. And enjoy it with a very select few people. And stuck with one when you find that person.

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I’m trying to understand how random person I don’t know on the internet knows more about what I want in regards to my sex life than I do. I’m not interested in marriage or children and it’s projective to assume that is the goal for every person when the truth is more of a complex spectrum.

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I’m old. I’ve known lots of hot sluts. I don’t personally know any it worked out well for. Obviously there would be some. The odds are any given person says that’s what they want will come to regret it. If not, then good for you.

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oh my ! i'm older. i did it right. i say yes. i enjoyed with many & i enjoyed often. sex is a sacred act. best not interfere with another's "prayer". please consider not speaking for "gen x's" .

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If being a ‘hot slut’ as the above person described it, worked for you then great. But it doesn’t work for many.

When you make love with someone you join with that person on many levels. There are many you shouldn’t join with. It can be messy and time consuming and sometimes unpleasant extricating yourself. In addition, if you are open and loving you ‘fall in love’. Do that five times and you might be surprised you can’t do it after that. There is an element of devoting yourself to someone that requires the ‘suspension of disbelief’. You can only do that so many times.

I suspect either you weren’t a ‘hot slut’ as you implied. But you might have been open sexually and possibly emotionally. If you were a hot slut then I doubt you ever married and had a family.

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yes. it worked for me. i can’t speak to how well it works for others. i only know that it is possible. as for family, i will share this post with my ex & my son. they will get a kick out of it. thank you for the discourse.

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Unbelievable that u would post this when i need it most. Un. Believe. Able.

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Period

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Sex is always a good topic but this is terrible writing and boring to boot. Was this article supposed to be some big revelation? Sorry nothing new here and badly written to boot. Lousy recommendation Substack!

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Pretty judgmental for someone who wrote “to boot” not once, but twice in one paragraph.

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Alright, it’s officially time to release her 💅

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