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Amanda I am 6'2" with a 36" inside leg measurement and have struggled all my life with getting tights to fit. I used to wear a second pair of knickers over the top to keep them up but that can be a little weird when a "friend" is trying to divest you of them in a dimly lit room. I tried buying them from a specialist tall girl clothing store but they still weren't right. Snag tights are out of this world; I started wearing them last year and will never buy them from anywhere else. No wrinkly ankles, no wandering crotch, loads of shades and styles. They are so fucking big I could actually tuck them into my bra and I'm a clothing size bigger than Trixie too. Think of them as an investment and you're also helping a body positive inclusive small business too.
For starters, I'd like to point out that I am not a health professional. I am not qualified to give any psychological advice, but I know a thing or two about those 'darkest days'. As someone who has been struggling with my mental health over twenty years, I can relate to you on a personal level. I've been in therapy for years, and it's been really helpful. However, what really helped me was; teaching myself how to be present. I am an overthinker, my brain literally thinks 10 steps ahead. Most of the time I would find myself feeling bored by something I haven't even started. And that boredom would snowball, then turn into something else and next thing I know, I would be feeling miserable. Not to mention, I would also feel like a giant failure. But in time (with the help of therapy and lots of reading), I taught myself to embrace whatever emotion I am going through at the moment, just focus on the moment and take a deep breath. I know, it sounds terribly cheesy and when I first heard this, I rolled my eyes so hard that I thought I was going to have a seizure, but it really works. If you are upset, then let yourself be upset, if you want to cry, then go ahead and cry. Once, you make peace with your emotions instead of trying to fight them, things start getting easier.
As a teen I assumed everyone was just as sad and miserable as I was. Cut to 24 years later and the misery and sadness never really left and I had to maneuver around it while holding jobs, paying rent, and just trying to maintain some semblance of normalcy; pain that I desperately tried to hide from my family, husband, and friends for years. In 2020 the world broke more than it ever had and I broke even more too. At the end of 2021 I finally found a mental health counselor that I see via tele-health on Monday's for my hour lunch (I now work from home), and so far it's been great. I really respond to my therapist and feel like we are working on things that I haven't been able to process on my own in a healthy manner for some time. Having the financial means to do this for myself for the first time means the world to me and I encourage anyone who has struggled with clinical depression to seek out affordable options if you have the means to. If you don't, you can tap the shoulder of non-profit organizations near you that may offer free mental health services. I have a few friends who utilize this as an option as they are out of work and searching for employment opportunities to fit the ever changing landscape of a never-ending pandemic scene. Being happy and living your life without feeling like it's a burden is EVERYTHING. If you need help, do yourself a favor and go get it. You deserve it.😚💋
Hi, leotard type underwear, the kind that hooks between your legs, does wonders for keeping one's hosiery in check. I am not tall, but I have goodly girth and pantyhose provide only so much stretch.
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Amanda I am 6'2" with a 36" inside leg measurement and have struggled all my life with getting tights to fit. I used to wear a second pair of knickers over the top to keep them up but that can be a little weird when a "friend" is trying to divest you of them in a dimly lit room. I tried buying them from a specialist tall girl clothing store but they still weren't right. Snag tights are out of this world; I started wearing them last year and will never buy them from anywhere else. No wrinkly ankles, no wandering crotch, loads of shades and styles. They are so fucking big I could actually tuck them into my bra and I'm a clothing size bigger than Trixie too. Think of them as an investment and you're also helping a body positive inclusive small business too.
Hey Mathilda,
For starters, I'd like to point out that I am not a health professional. I am not qualified to give any psychological advice, but I know a thing or two about those 'darkest days'. As someone who has been struggling with my mental health over twenty years, I can relate to you on a personal level. I've been in therapy for years, and it's been really helpful. However, what really helped me was; teaching myself how to be present. I am an overthinker, my brain literally thinks 10 steps ahead. Most of the time I would find myself feeling bored by something I haven't even started. And that boredom would snowball, then turn into something else and next thing I know, I would be feeling miserable. Not to mention, I would also feel like a giant failure. But in time (with the help of therapy and lots of reading), I taught myself to embrace whatever emotion I am going through at the moment, just focus on the moment and take a deep breath. I know, it sounds terribly cheesy and when I first heard this, I rolled my eyes so hard that I thought I was going to have a seizure, but it really works. If you are upset, then let yourself be upset, if you want to cry, then go ahead and cry. Once, you make peace with your emotions instead of trying to fight them, things start getting easier.
As a teen I assumed everyone was just as sad and miserable as I was. Cut to 24 years later and the misery and sadness never really left and I had to maneuver around it while holding jobs, paying rent, and just trying to maintain some semblance of normalcy; pain that I desperately tried to hide from my family, husband, and friends for years. In 2020 the world broke more than it ever had and I broke even more too. At the end of 2021 I finally found a mental health counselor that I see via tele-health on Monday's for my hour lunch (I now work from home), and so far it's been great. I really respond to my therapist and feel like we are working on things that I haven't been able to process on my own in a healthy manner for some time. Having the financial means to do this for myself for the first time means the world to me and I encourage anyone who has struggled with clinical depression to seek out affordable options if you have the means to. If you don't, you can tap the shoulder of non-profit organizations near you that may offer free mental health services. I have a few friends who utilize this as an option as they are out of work and searching for employment opportunities to fit the ever changing landscape of a never-ending pandemic scene. Being happy and living your life without feeling like it's a burden is EVERYTHING. If you need help, do yourself a favor and go get it. You deserve it.😚💋
it's true I followed this advice and wore a funky hat and I no longer have depression
that's so cute 😭💕
Hi, leotard type underwear, the kind that hooks between your legs, does wonders for keeping one's hosiery in check. I am not tall, but I have goodly girth and pantyhose provide only so much stretch.